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Tips
for a first date
Kenarthur Mitchell, Youthlink Writer
Usually
most of the pressure of a first date hinges on
the shoulder of the guys, as women are said to
be more analytical on such an occasion.
First
dates are usually fragile affairs, especially
with the fact that it's the first occasion where
two strangers unite to test their compatibility.
Usually, most of the pressure of a first date,
hinges on the shoulder of the guys, as women are
said to be more analytical on such an occasion.
Hence, things like fidgeting, sweating, stuttering
and just genuinely portraying low confidence is
not cool. Although the guys have a lot to prove
on a first date, ladies also have to watch out
for some bad habits of their own, as there's nothing
worse than your date bailing out on you! The Youthlink
came up with a checklist of some useful first-date
tactics that should set you clear for a second
occasion.
Tips
1
Venue: The first date is all about
getting to know each other a little bit better
hence, select a spot with a relaxed vibe; so forget
about the boring fancy dinner and avoid the three
hour movies. If you really want to have a good
first date be simple. Choose somewhere relaxing,
where you and the person can talk and have fun.
2
Be natural: This
is especially for guys. There's no need to portray
an image of what you're not. Try to keep the conversation
simple by avoiding debates about religion or politics.
Don't impose or get too personal; whatever a girl
wants to tell you, she will reveal on her own.
3
Conversation: Do not talk continuously
to keep the date interesting; allow the discussions
to be interactive and listen keenly. This way,
you learn a lot about each other while revealing
a little about yourself.
4
Originality: Questions like, "What's
your favourite song" or "what do you
do for fun" are all tired and worn out. Chances
are that the last 10 persons have already asked
that. Be creative; let the person see what makes
you different from the others.
5
Comfort: Make your date feel comfortable.
It doesn't hurt to compliment him or her on whatever
you feel looks nice on them. Be sincere about
it; if there's nothing good to say, probably you
shouldn't be on the date in the first place.
6
Cellular phones: Constantly breaking
the date to answer your phone is very annoying
for both sexes. Hence, if you're known for being
a hotline, turn it off until the date is over.
7
The 'ex' factor: Ladies, whatever you
do, don't mention your ex! Simply put, there'll
be a time for that. A first date is just not one
of them.
8
Honesty: Ladies and gents, this is
probably the most important tip of all. Honesty
is the best policy. Don't let your date remember
you as the great pretender. |
